What's sex have to do with it???

I went to my doctor's appointment yesterday.

As you all know I had my colonoscopy done 3 weeks ago and according to the lady who performed it, everything looked normal. No signs of Chron's (what I was fearing), diverticuli, or ulcers. She showed me the pictures of the colon and everything looked fine to my eyes.

Of course, I'm not a GI doctor.

Due to my lack of insurance I go to the Hospital Clinic - set up for patients with no health insurance- and we get to be seen by men and women doing their residency. Which sucks...

No offence to people who are into Medicine or medical school, but learning to treat a patient is a whole story and I do know they have to go thru this, but it just sucks when you go 11,000 times and they tell you 'i don't really know what you have'.

I got to my appointment on time, and I got to see the doctor 1 1/2 hour later.

This Indian doctor comes and introduces himself, and by this time I started to have a weird feeling. The last time I went to the GI clinic, it was a very sweet and nice lady who was my doctor.

This is how the conversation went:

Dr. Your colonoscopy went well, everything is fine. The doctor might have called you to tell you the biopsy came back negative.

me. they didn't tell me about the biopsy, but that's good news. Except it still hurts.

Dr. Are you in pain right now?

me. yes. Not much, just a lil bit.

Dr. When did the pain start?

me. (it's all in my file, so I didn't know why he asked it AGAIN) It started a while ago blah blah blah blah.... (I made the whole speech)

Dr. Have you seen an OB-GYN?

me. yeah. i saw 3. I had 5 sonograms done. Nothing in my ovaries, uterus.

Dr. Do you have psychiatric problems?

me. No.

Dr. Are you married?

me. Yes.

Dr. How long you've been married?

me. 3 months

Dr. How long you've been having sex with him?

me. for about 18 months

Dr. How big is his penis?

me. (answering the question like: what does that have to do with anything????)

And then these questions followed:

Do you masturbate?

Insert things?

Use toys?

Give each other's pleasure?

Have you tried new positions?

Do you perform oral sex?

What kind of birth control are you using?

So when he asked the last question I started feeling really uncomfortable.

I didn't know where he was going with this, but it just felt wrong.

He, then, started arguing with me about the decision Gary and I made about birth control and how or when we'll have kids.

He is a GI doctor, not a OB-GYN.

I didn't go there to discuss my sexual life with him, nor my birth plans.

I left the hospital completely in tears.

For those of you who know me IRL, you know I have NO PROBLEM whatsoever talking about sex and stuff, but I didn't go there to talk about my sexual life, discuss when we'll get pregnant or IF we want to get pregnant. That wasn't something related to his specialty, so it perturbed me the origin of these questions.

Did you do anything?

Yes.

I did got his name.

I did write a letter.

I did send it to the hospital.

And for those of you who don't live in New York and have heard about the NY attitude and shit, it's true.

And God protect you and bless you if you're hispanic, sound like Russian and look white.

(what a combination)

SCHOOL REPORT

~Ry~

After the 1st bad day with the bullies, Ry didn't want to go to school anymore.

That was after Monday... he came back extremely happy...

He had MUSIC!

Because Ryan loves Music, it was a good thing he had it the 1st day back after the weekend.

He even told us he played with Eric, one of the bullies.

Good sign!

*Nikki*

First day of hip-hop class went ok... until the next morning.

There we go again with 'I don't wanna go to dance anymore'.

It's gonna be another year fighting to take her to dance classes. Nice.

Seasons....

We walked to the bus stop and we started talking about the leaves.

I said to Nikki:

'See? The leaves are falling so we're getting into Fall. Then comes Winter, then SPring, then Summer and then I get married!'

Her face changed after I said 'Summer and then I get married.'

We talk about when I leave, and how I'm gonna come back and visit... so little by little everything is getting into her.

We will both miss each other very much... :(

Have a nice day everybody!!!